Go Slower To Get There Faster

The phrase "go slower to get there faster" is an important component of personal growth.

We all generally want to achieve our goals quickly, right? Magazine covers are filled with tips for "losing weight fast", and the desire to "get rich quick" is compelling. Yet it's common knowledge that weight quickly lost can be easily regained, and the idea that "fast money" can be earned with little investment is a major reason the housing market tumbled and investment earnings evaporated almost overnight.

I like to see people make speedy gains in my counseling and psychotherapy practice. Sometimes just a few meetings are all that is needed to turn around a situation that may have initially seemed very dire. These are occasions for great rejoicing. But it's also the case that sometimes people settle for a cosmetic appearance of improvement when a deeper and more sustained level of effort is required for lasting change.

The most effective change is often achieved gradually. Many problems didn't occur overnight and it's unrealistic to expect that they will be overcome immediately. I like to use the analogy of crooked teeth: braces take years of fairly continuous pressure to bring about the proper alignment, but the end result is worth the effort.

I've written before how slight improvements can bring about great results, either by engaging in a novel effort or implementing a small change over a longer period of time. One significant benefit of incremental rather than dramatic change is that it allows for adjustments along the way. An idea that initially seems excellent can turn into a nightmare later on if it's acted upon too rashly (one of the many reasons against marrying a person soon after a divorce.) As the old saying goes, "act in haste, repent at leisure."

New homeowners who want to landscape their property with various trees and plants often ignore spacing recommendations and arrange everything too close together. While the design may look attractive for a season or two, once the plants mature and start to crowd into each other the investment of time, money and energy can be a source of great regret.

Knowing when to act quickly and when to slow down can be confusing in the middle of a difficult situation. This is when a trustworthy source of guidance is invaluable. Someone who has frequently been over the same terrain that you're just beginning to travel can be of immense benefit. It's no surprise that I think an experienced counselor such as myself can serve such a role, but anyone with wisdom and objectivity can guide you.

Remember the quote from the Tao Te Ching: "Spring comes, the grass grows by itself." If you're truly committed to personal growth then you're in it for the long haul. Pace yourself and enjoy the scenery.
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